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What’s Your Love Style?

When you say “I love you,” what do you mean? 

Terry Hatkoff, a California State University sociologist, has created a love scale that identifies six distinct types of love found in our closest relationships. 

  • Romantic: Based on passion and sexual attraction 
  • Best Friends: Fondness and deep affection 
  • Logical: Practical feelings based on shared values, financial goals, religion etc.  
  • Playful: Feelings evoked by flirtation or feeling challenged
  • Possessive: Jealousy and obsession 
  • Unselfish: Nurturing, kindness, and sacrifice

Researchers have found that the love we feel in our most committed relationships is typically a combination of two or three different forms of love. But often, two people in the same relationship can have very different versions of how they define love. Dr. Hatkoff gives the example of a man and woman having dinner. The waiter flirts with the woman, but the husband doesn’t seem to notice, and talks about changing the oil in her car. The wife is upset her husband isn’t jealous. The husband feels his extra work isn’t appreciated.

What does this have to do with love? The man and woman each define love differently. For him, love is practical, and is best shown by supportive gestures like car maintenance. For her, love is possessive, and a jealous response by her husband makes her feel valued. 

Reignite Romance

Romantic love has been called a “natural addiction” because it activates the brain’s reward center — notably the dopamine pathways associated with drug addiction, alcohol and gambling. But those same pathways are also associated with novelty, energy, focus, learning, motivation, ecstasy and craving. No wonder we feel so energized and motivated when we fall in love!

But we all know that romantic, passionate love fades a bit over time, and (we hope) matures into a more contented form of committed love. Even so, many couples long to rekindle the sparks of early courtship. But is it possible?

The relationship researcher Arthur Aron, a psychology professor who directs the Interpersonal Relationships Laboratory at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, has found a way. The secret? Do something new and different — and make sure you do it together. New experiences activate the brain’s reward system, flooding it with dopamine and norepinephrine. These are the same brain circuits that are ignited in early romantic love. Whether you take a pottery class or go on a white-water rafting trip, activating your dopamine systems while you are together can help bring back the excitement you felt on your first date. In studies of couples, Dr. Aron has found that partners who regularly share new experiences report greater boosts in marital happiness than those who simply share pleasant but familiar experiences.

Diagnose Your Passion Level

The psychology professor Elaine Hatfield has suggested that the love we feel early in a relationship is different than what we feel later. Early on, love is “passionate,” meaning we have feelings of intense longing for our mate. Longer-term relationships develop “companionate love,” which can be described as a deep affection, and strong feelings of commitment and intimacy. 

Where does your relationship land on the spectrum of love? The Passionate Love Scale, developed by Dr. Hatfield, of the University of Hawaii, and Susan Sprecher, a psychology and sociology professor at Illinois State University, can help you gauge the passion level of your relationship. Once you see where you stand, you can start working on injecting more passion into your partnership. Note that while the scale is widely used by relationship researchers who study love, the quiz is by no means the final word on the health of your relationship. Take it for fun and let the questions inspire you to talk to your partner about passion. After all, you never know where the conversation might lead

Sex

For most couples, the more sex they have, the happier the relationship.

How Much Sex Are You Having?

Let’s start with the good news. Committed couples really do have more sex than everyone else. Don’t believe it? While it’s true that single people can regale you with stories of crazy sexual episodes, remember that single people also go through long dry spells. A March 2017 report found that 15 percent of men and 27 percent of women reported they hadn’t had sex in the past year. And 9 percent of men and 18 percent of women say they haven’t had sex in five years. The main factors associated with a sexless life are older age and not being married. So whether you’re having committed or married sex once a week, once a month or just six times a year, the fact is that there’s still someone out there having less sex than you. And if you’re one of those people NOT having sex, this will cheer you upAmericans who are not having sex are just as happy as their sexually-active counterparts.

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1best quotes to Reignite your love

1. “We are most alive when we’re in love.”
— John Updike
2. ” True love stories never have endings.”
— Richard Bach
3. “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
— Aristotle
4. “The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.”
— Audrey Hepburn
5. “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
— Dr. Seuss
6. “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.”
— Helen Keller
7. “Love cures people—both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it.”
— Karl Menninger
8. “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
—Harry (Billy Crystal), from When Harry Met Sally
9. “True love is not a hide-and-seek game; in true love, both lovers seek each other.”
— Michael Bassey Johnson
10. “The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come

  1. “At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet.”
    Plato
  2. “Who, being loved, is poor?”
    Oscar Wilde
  3. “Love is totally nonsensical. But we have to keep doing it or else we’re lost and love is dead, and humanity should just pack it in. Because love is the best thing we do.”
    —Ted (Josh Radnor), from How I Met Your Mother
  4. “A loving heart is the truest wisdom.”
    Charles Dickens
  5. “There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.”
    Friedrich Nietzsche
  6. “Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”
    Maya Angelou
  7. “Sometimes two people have to fall apart to realize how much they need to fall back together.”
    —Anonymous
  8. “Love alone can rekindle life.”
    Henri Frederic Amiel
  9. A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
    Mignon McLaughlin
  10. “Love is a game that two can play and both can win.”
    Eva Gabor